We all want to have peace of mind and to have a peaceful life. We look for peace everywhere but where should we actually look? We seek and hope that something external will make us at peace. We hope that some situations will magically make us peaceful. Let me give you a few examples of what exactly I mean:

“If I only had the courage to leave my job, I would be at peace…. But I can’t”.

“If I only were in a relationship, I would be happier and more peaceful”.

“If I could have time just for myself, I would be at peace”.

“If I had 20K extra to my of my debt I would be at peace then”.

“If I knew what the future holds, then I could be at peace”.

The truth

Sounds familiar? The only problem with that is even when you would have all those things, you still would not feel at peace. The truth is that external things cannot make you change your perception of yourself. Even if you would receive the things you want, you would think of something else that “is taking away your peace”.

It’s not the things or situations that make you unhappy but your thoughts and feelings about yourself and your life. The more you think about something the more it becomes your beliefs and for that your reality.

So, if you ever want to have peace of mind, or be at peace with yourself, you got to look within yourself for that. You got to search within your soul for your desired peace.


If you were to ask me Why is that? Why do we look for external things rather than inside us? The reasons for that can be many. Sometimes we don’t want to admit that we can take control over our life, so instead, we demand that external things or people will do that for us.

Sometimes the thought of being fully responsible for our own happiness can scare people, as they are afraid to make a mistake, and then they won’t be able to blame anybody else for it.

Other times people project their own desires/ fears/ demands/ wishes/ onto others, believing that they cannot do anything about it. It makes them feel helpless or powerless.

However, all the above usually is happening without that person’s full awareness. They do believe it and they live it, but they don’t know why or where those beliefs come from. They took it as their truth. In that case, we are talking about the subconscious mind pattern.

Take control

So, if you want to have peace of mind, be happy and have a fulfilled life, you have got to become more aware of yourself, your thoughts, and your actions. You need to start paying attention to your behaviour and your thought patterns. In other words, you need to take control of your life.

Rather than allowing life to happen to you, you need to be in charge of yourself.

This concept might be scary at first, I totally understand that, but you need to stop playing a ‘life victim’ and stop allowing other things or people to control your life. When you do that, you only amplify the thought of “I can’t; I don’t know how to do it; I am useless… etc.”


You have to stop telling yourself that!

Give yourself permission to live the life you want!

Give yourself permission to be in charge of yourself.

Give yourself permission to enjoy life.

Give yourself permission to feel alive!

Stop waiting for someone else to give you permission. You don’t need it. From who you really need that permission is yourself! God already gave you that permission, the moment you were born.

Stop telling yourself that you are not worthy of something. If the Universe’s power within you/ God would tell you that you are worthy, that your evidence is the gift of life, would you dare to argue that? Would you protest?

Exactly! No, you would NOT! So stop keeping yourself small, stop depriving yourself of having a peaceful and fulfilled life, and start living!

With love,


If you need help with achieving peace of mind, gaining confidence, feeling worthy, enjoying life, and feeling alive then I invite you to my FEARLESS SOUL Masterclass. More info:

Masterclass – Psychotherapy Kuchenna

Link to my books:

Psychotherapy Kuchenna – Books

Link to free mediation:

Improve Your Self-Esteem and Get Yor Spark Back (psychotherapykuchenna.com)

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