One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether it’s guilt, anger,
love, loss, or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.

I am sure you have heard many times that you must let go of things, of your past, of your pain, of the people in your life. But surely you realized that it isn’t that easy. It requires much more realization, learning, and growing.

In my field of expertise, very often I meet people who need to learn how to let go of things. It is a process. We need to learn how to accept the upcoming change, because with every ‘let go’ there comes a change. And that’s what many of us don’t like, feels afraid of, and feels resistance towards it.

Although, before I became a psychotherapist, I had to learn many things about myself, and about the process of letting go. Was it easy for me? Of course not! And to be honest with you, until these days it is not always easy for me to let some of the things go but as I said it is a process that I am very much aware of. This week I got a very powerful poem about ‘letting go’ from an amazing woman, who is my supervisor. I love it because it contains lots of wisdom and truth. It helps to look at the process of ‘letting go’ from different perspectives.


To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies.

To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.

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